In the 'gathering information' stage of our adoption process, we read books and blogs and advice about fundraising for international adoptions.
Turns out, this is quite common.
It struck me as odd, then smart, then weird, then necessary.
Then weird again.
Something about it didn't feel right to me. We didn't fundraise for our wedding or for school or for buying a home- all expensive endeavors. If I were pregnant, we wouldn't fundraise for the birth of our biological child. Yet, it's so common that we continue to encounter overwhelming amounts of blogs and ideas and books about fundraising.
We are not fundraising for our international adoption.
And here's why.
1.) We know we will receive unbelievable amounts of support from our loved ones. They will emotionally support us and celebrate with us and wait with us for our baby to come home. That is the most important thing we could ask of them.
2.) Our baby is not a cause. We are not making some grand statement by adopting from Ethiopia. It is not our intent to 'rescue' a child from Africa- this is not a political or humanitarian act. We are adopting because we want a baby. We want to be parents. There are many reasons we decided to create our family through international adoption. Our baby is not a victim who needs things from us, we are not the heroes selflessly giving those things. We are a family.
All this is definitely NOT to say that we think it's wrong to fundraise or that we don't understand why people do. We purchase items and donate for adoptions weekly. BUT, we don't think that we could feel right about fundraising to bring our baby home.
That being said,
We would be THRILLED if anyone knows anything helpful about adoption grants, loans, or wants to help in other ways- such as donating airfare miles, emotionally supporting us, and checking out our baby registry (coming soon).
We love you all so much and are so happy you're part of bringing our baby home to us!